The role of personality

Who knows who he is, who knows each other so well that he can really say for himself what he needs and is looking for in his life. We all have certain ideas about who we are and what we want, but knowing yourself is one of the most difficult tasks in life.

What does personality have to do with our energy barrel model, with our life energy?

Well, you could say that it depends on the basic attitude, basic attitude or personality of a person which things stress and burden him particularly in our 4 basic areas, and which things do not upset and burden him. It also depends on the personality which things are particularly satisfying for the individual person, i.e. where he can easily gain energy especially for himself and which things may look attractive, but ultimately give him little or no energy. In addition, one could say that certain injuries and experiences that shape the personality, so to speak, to stick with the image of the energy barrel, can cause small or larger cracks in our barrel, from which additional energy seeps through, which we may not notice once.

So, the energy model applies equally to all people – just like the principle that no more can be spent than what was taken. However, people differ considerably in how much energy they spend on individual things – and in order to be able to assess that it is important to get to know each other better.

Imagine a person who has a very extraverted personality, who is sociable and who enjoys reaching out to other people. This person now loses a large part of his circle of friends by moving from Munich to HH. However, he sees rebuilding this as a challenge, it is fun for him, he looks forward to meeting new people and maybe also tries to maintain old contacts despite the distance. The subjective load (i.e. ultimately the energy that flows out of the barrel as a result) is not that high here.

Now we take a person with a personality who is rather shy of contact, more of a loner, who does not feel very comfortable in a social group and who usually only has one or two more intensive contacts. For this person, the same external change (moving) can be a significantly more stressful event. it may take so much effort to approach new people that he doesn’t even try it or gives up after a few attempts. The energy inflow that he had from his two important contacts does not materialize – but a new inflow may not arise at all. So this situation can be much more difficult for a person with the personality described and cost a lot more energy. But it could also be different – the solitary person has got a job in HH that suits him very well – he sits at his computer and no longer has to deal with as many people as at his job in Munich, where he constantly has to deal with dissatisfied customers via the hot line. This change of work content has become much more relaxing for him, so much less energy flows away here than before, so he may still have enough energy to re-establish one or two important contacts.
Knowing one’s own personality helps to recognize what a person needs to balance his energy balance and what is particularly threatening, but also how he can help himself by knowing his inclinations and needs better.